NAME GAME

 

Couple flip a coin at their wedding to choose their last name but some think it’s just ‘tacky’

Lydia Hawken

2 Jan 2020, 13:51

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DECIDING whether or not to take your husband's last name is the first big decision that all married women have to make - and certainly not something most of us would leave up to chance.

That said, one pair of newlyweds did exactly that when they flipped a coin to decide which of their surnames they'll both use.

Mr and Mrs Ward took the bride's surname after flipping a coin after exchanging their vows

Credit: www.charlottefristoe.com

Jeff Conley and Darcy Ward, from Florida, let the fates decide their family name when they flipped a coin after exchanging their vows on their wedding day last month.

The couple had a personalised gold medallion made for the special moment, which had Darcy's surname engraved on one side and Jeff's on the other.

The groom told The Palm Beach Post: "It's fair. I am a graduate student in economics at Florida State and I think about fairness."

Darcy, who works as a midwife, added: "Being with someone who was willing to start the marriage from a creative and fair place felt like a really good first step toward an equal partnership."

Being with someone who was willing to start the marriage from a creative and fair place felt like a really good first step toward an equal partnership

Darcy Ward

When it came round to flipping the coin, it was the bride's surname which came up trumps - and luckily, the groom was just as pleased as he said he'd been.

Jeff added: "You could say I won. I was the one who received something new."

However, not everyone was so on board with the idea - with readers online labelling the whole thing "tacky".

After a picture of the coin toss was shared on the Facebook group That's It, I'm Wedding Shaming, one person replied: "Doing a coin flip AT the wedding is stupid.

"No one cares how you make this decision but you don't need to do it in front of a crowd."

Another added: "Flipping a coin is probably the most fair way to decide on whose surname to use - but doing it in front of your guests makes it seem a little trivial."

Jumping to their defense, a third wrote: "Why can't you make this decision over a coin toss? If they don't really care which name they have, why can't they do something fun and leave it to chance."