Love means doing what God has commanded us, and he has commanded us to love one another, just as you heard from the beginning. 2 John 1:6
Sometimes an individual will say to his or her spouse, “I want you to be happy. If leaving me will make you happy, then leave. It hurts, but I want you to be happy.” On the surface that may sound loving and self-sacrificial, but in reality it is neither. Real love seeks the other person’s good. And according to the Scriptures, breaking the marital covenant is not good. (See 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 for one example.
A person’s greatest good is found not in happiness but in righteousness. If happiness is found by doing something that is wrong, the happiness will be fleeting because the pleasures of sin are always shortlived. (See Hebrews 11:25.) So Christians must never encourage divorce in pursuit of happiness. Instead, we need to encourage each other to righteousness. As the apostle John wrote in the passage above, love means following God’s commandments, or living righteously.
The real question is, what does the Bible teach us to do in our present situation? If you don’t know the answer, then find a godly pastor who is acquainted with biblical principles for marital relationships. Once we know what is right, as believers we must seek it at all costs